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Bisexual Awareness Day: An Important New Study by HRC

Today is Bisexual Awareness Day, and HRC released a report along with BiNet USA, Bisexual Resource Center, and the Bisexual Organization Project that is very important in further understanding the stigmatization that many in the bisexual and pansexual community face on a regular basis.

Check out the full report here!

This is an incredibly important conversation to have and continue having until those with any and all sexualities and gender identities are welcomed within and outside of the LGBTQ+ community.

Kristin also weighed in with her own experience on the issue in an article on the same topic released today by Autostraddle.

Check out the Autostraddle article here!

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BREAKING: California Bans ‘Gay Panic’ Defense

You can no longer wiggle out of a murder charge in California by saying you were…

Hello! My new book, Bluebell Hall, was just published- it’s about queer teen witches, and the main characters are a biracial girl with ADHD, a black girl, a trans girl, and a fat girl whose siblings are adopted. Would you be interested in reblogging a post about it?

If so, here’s the link.

http://kayla-bird.tumblr.com/post/80272533526/left-to-right-jessamy-iola-tansy-ruth

Or you can reblog this one if you want:

http://kayla-bird.tumblr.com/post/81035589133/a-wild-tansy-trilby-appears-not-actual-outfit

 Thanks so much!

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Talking about t.A.T.u.

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I don’t really want to talk about the Olympics, but I think I need to because I am a squid of rage right now.   

I am sick to death of media coverage of t.A.T.u. performing at the Olympics that demeans these two and erases the years of abuse that went into that ‘fake-lesbian’ act. Yeah, I’m looking at you Towleroad and  especially you, AfterEllen.  I expect as much from mainstream media but queer media, you are on my shit list.   

For those who don’t know, t.A.T.u. was a musical duo in the early 2000’s marketed by their creepy manager Ivan Shapavalov (who was pushing 40 at the time) as lesbians.  They were scripted by him to say explicit sexual things during interviews. This started when they were 14 years old.  

When they came to America, both of their English language skills (especially Julia’s) were very limited.  No one is sure if they even knew what they were saying.

This same manager got Julia pregnant at 16 and to keep her performing, forced her into having an abortion.   He used sex and drugs to keep them under his thumb until about 2008.    

 Lena admitted she was straight but a staunch supporter of LGBT rights and Julia came out as bisexual.  They both participated in Moscow Pride. Were they a couple ever? No. But one is queer.  Regardless of if they were a couple or not, for a generation of lesbian and bisexual women, they could turn on MTV back when it played music videos and see two women saying “I love you” while trying to escape homophobic persecution.    That is a narrative we almost never see in mainstream music today, a decade later.   

But I don’t see people celebrating t.A.T.u.’s cultural legacy despite being survivors of abuse.   I see people enjoying a hit of holier-than-thou and calling them fake-lesbians.  

It’s reasonable to ask if t.A.T.u. performing at the Olympics is collaboration or a chance for Russians to see a queer woman and an ally on stage.   We can debate if they should have done the gig.   We can discuss why several of Julia’s queerer songs have been removed from itunes or how her biography online has repeatedly been edited to remove these facts about her life.   We can talk about how their abuse is similar to the high rates of abuse, depression, and suicide for bisexual people (higher than that of gay, lesbian, or straight folks).    

But if your response to t.A.T.u.  is to be angry at them for imitating or appropriating lesbianism and not to be angry at the way they were abused and manipulated, then you are a terrible fucking person.  You’re the one setting queer rights back, not a pair of emotionally, physically, and sexually abused teenage girls.   

- Sarah 

* Thanks to nooffswitch for helping me fill in some of the dates and details

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Safe spaces, “LGBT” allies, and a trans girl’s anger (or, only trans people can say when a place is a safe space for the T).

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(This is a submission from a friend.)

Safe spaces, “LGBT” allies, and a trans girl’s anger (or, only trans people can say when a place is a safe space for the T).

My school (a college) recently held a Safe Zone training. Anyone unfamiliar with that, it’s basically a two or three hour long session of training on LGBT stuff so professors and staff can be more educated on it. Now, it’s white gay ciscentric, so most of the trans related stuff is so wrong it’s offensive. (They focus on SAAB and the “born in the wrong body” stuff.)

The goal at the end of the training is that the campus will be a more welcoming and educated place. Now, from the START I didn’t like the idea that a white cis man (gay or not) could educate a room full of other white cis people on trans issues or LGBT POC issues, the rare time where we are brought up, we’re brought up in a light that makes us look extremely homophobic, I have NEVER in my life met a gay man (cis or trans) of color (mainly black) who hated being gay and being associated with LGBT things. But that’s another issue.

White cis man educates room on trans things (not on trans things really, just on 20 year old trans terminology that mostly non-trans people came up with in the first place), and now they’re all “allies”.

I respect my REAL allies. Let me get that straight. But a majority of the “LGBT allies” are allies only to white cis gay and lesbians, don’t even TRY to listen to trans people, and are fetishizing and disrespectful. (Note: I’ve been told by numerous allies to accept my sexual harassment and assaults, even when they happen on the “safe zone” campus.)

Now, why am I angry? I’m angry because I’m ignored. I’m angry because the LGBT group on campus talks more about the non-existent plight of allies than it does what happens to trans people. In fact, in the year and a half I’ve been there, they’ve only ever mentioned trans things once. When the opportunity arises and I bring it up, I would get ignored. If I mentioned my problems to the authority figures that can help me, I get dismissed. Example: I change my name, FA office calls out former name, FA ignores me telling them to stop, FA continues to insult me and put me in danger on the busiest day of the year. I go to the authorities, and they just dismiss me and tell me I should get over it (not their precise words, but that’s what it amounted to). So I swallow my hurt and anger and I deal.

Today, when they’re talking about the Safe Zone training in class, they talk about how the school is a safe place for LGBT students. (I’m sitting there rolling my eyes, because LGBT = gay in this instance.) When the semester started, the student workers in the gym building basically get into it with me about my ID card, they don’t believe it’s mine even though it’s clearly me. They also don’t believe I’m a girl. So they try to get me to go to the men’s locker rooms. I don’t, I go about my business and go to class. I come out of the women’s locker room, and they stare at me REALLY hard. Next class, they put up a sign that says to use the “APPROPRIATE LOCKER ROOMS”, in bold print. (Note: that stupid little Safe Zone triangle is affixed to everything in the building.)

I do what it says and use the appropriate room (the women’s locker room). Since then, I’ve been getting into staring matches with the student workers and they always misgender me. But this college calls itself a safe space and I’m looked at like an angry trans bitch with a chip on her shoulder when I call bullshit.

TL;DR - Safe spaces are only safe for trans people WHEN TRANS PEOPLE SAY THEY ARE. You’re only an “LGBT” ally when ALL OF THE LETTERS IN THAT ACRONYM SAY YOU ARE. And lastly, there is no way in fucking hell that allies have some plight because they’re allies. This trans girl would prefer it if you just said gay ally, because I know that’s what you really mean. Being an ally to me would mean helping me when I’m being harassed, assaulted, or verbally abused. None of which the so-called allies in my school have done.

I hate feeling the anger about it that I do, but I’ve taken so much shit that it would hurt me to just keep taking it.

Also: commenting on my breasts and genitals just screams that you’re a predator. Professors have done that to me and thank fuck none of them teach any class I’m in. I don’t bother complaining about it anymore because apparently that’s a compliment.

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You SHOULD know this, because it is INCREDIBLY important and something that wasn’t acknowledged until very, VERY recently.
(I did a history project on this in Y9. We got to do something from the 20th century; everyone else did, like, Marilyn Monroe, and I read a translation of Moi, Pierre Seel, déporté homosexuel and then did my project on that. Cheerful, no, but important to know about, yes.)

whaaaaat, seriously?!

In 1950, East Germany abolished Nazi amendments to Paragraph 175, whereas West Germany kept them and even had them confirmed by its Constitutional Court.
Well, that’s horrifying.



Oh my god

Homosexual concentration camp prisoners were not acknowledged as victims of Nazi persecution.[7] Reparations and state pensions available to other groups were refused to gay men, who were still classified as criminals — the Nazi anti-gay law was not repealed until 1994, although both East and West Germany liberalized their criminallaws against adult homosexuality in the late 1960s.
“Gay Holocaust” survivors could be re-imprisoned for “repeat offences”, and were kept on the modern lists of “sex offenders”. Under the Allied Military Government of Germany, some homosexuals were forced to serve out their terms of imprisonment, regardless of the time spent in concentration camps. (X)

Also worth mentioning that homosexuals are still largely unacknowledged as victims of the Holocaust even within circles where they should know better.  For example, in the Holocaust Museum in DC and Yad Vashem in Jerusalem, gay deaths are acknowledged only in passing and there is not a single picture of a “man of the pink triangle” - only of an empty ballroom that had once held a gay dance club.  When Yad Vashem was completely redone in 2005, gay groups pressed for inclusion alongside other non-Jewish groups such as the disabled, Roma, etc., and numerous senior-level officials and the Rabbinate condemned such requests for inclusion, with some going so far as to suggest that the homosexuals were German criminals and therefore did not belong in the same category as the Jews who had done nothing wrong.  When the memorial to gays in the Holocaust was unveiled in Berlin four years ago, senior members of Yad Vashem condemned it and, in particular, its proximity to the memorial for Jewish victims of the Shoah.

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You SHOULD know this, because it is INCREDIBLY important and something that wasn’t acknowledged until very, VERY recently.

(I did a history project on this in Y9. We got to do something from the 20th century; everyone else did, like, Marilyn Monroe, and I read a translation of Moi, Pierre Seel, déporté homosexuel and then did my project on that. Cheerful, no, but important to know about, yes.)

whaaaaat, seriously?!

In 1950, East Germany abolished Nazi amendments to Paragraph 175, whereas West Germany kept them and even had them confirmed by its Constitutional Court.

Well, that’s horrifying.

Oh my god

Homosexual concentration camp prisoners were not acknowledged as victims of Nazi persecution.[7] Reparations and state pensions available to other groups were refused to gay men, who were still classified as criminals — the Nazi anti-gay law was not repealed until 1994, although both East and West Germany liberalized their criminallaws against adult homosexuality in the late 1960s.

“Gay Holocaust” survivors could be re-imprisoned for “repeat offences”, and were kept on the modern lists of “sex offenders”. Under the Allied Military Government of Germany, some homosexuals were forced to serve out their terms of imprisonment, regardless of the time spent in concentration camps. (X)

Also worth mentioning that homosexuals are still largely unacknowledged as victims of the Holocaust even within circles where they should know better.  For example, in the Holocaust Museum in DC and Yad Vashem in Jerusalem, gay deaths are acknowledged only in passing and there is not a single picture of a “man of the pink triangle” - only of an empty ballroom that had once held a gay dance club.  When Yad Vashem was completely redone in 2005, gay groups pressed for inclusion alongside other non-Jewish groups such as the disabled, Roma, etc., and numerous senior-level officials and the Rabbinate condemned such requests for inclusion, with some going so far as to suggest that the homosexuals were German criminals and therefore did not belong in the same category as the Jews who had done nothing wrong.  When the memorial to gays in the Holocaust was unveiled in Berlin four years ago, senior members of Yad Vashem condemned it and, in particular, its proximity to the memorial for Jewish victims of the Shoah.

Couple of stats that jumped out at me:

  • 80% of transgender students report they felt unsafe at school because of their gender expression
  • 63.5% of students felt unsafe because of their sexual orientation
  • 43.9% of students felt unsafe because of their gender expression
  • 36.7% of students who did report an incident said that school staff did nothing in response
  • Less than half (45.7%) of students said their school had a GSA or similar club.

LGBT students in the Northeast and the West reported lower frequencies of victimization and hearing homophobic remarks and had greater access to resources and support than students in the South and Midwest.

The presence of a GSA or similar student club, a higher number of supportive educators, and LGBT-inclusive curriculum leads to fewer missed days of school, higher GPAs, and higher levels of self-esteem for LGBT students.

Photos of a Clandestine Gay Rights Rally in Tehran

Max Fisher

It’s not easy to be gay in the Islamic Republic of Iran. A recent United Nations report decried "harassment, persecution, cruel punishment and even the death penalty." Because Islamic law requires four adult male witnesses to prosecute sodomy, Iranian police typically seek confessions, often through torture. Women, easier to convict, are given 100 lashes for each case. Outside of the legal system, LGBT Iranians face widespread and socially accepted discrimination, bullying, and an elevated risk of suicide, according to a UK-based study. “Loneliness is killing me,” a 27-year-old man from Qazvin told researchers.

So it was an act of special significance when a small group of young people gathered in a hilly park overlooking Tehran to show, for a few brief but public moments, their support for Iranian gay rights. It was far from the biggest LGBT rights rally on May 17, the International Day Against Homophobia commemorating the World Health Organization’s 1990 decision to remove homosexuality from its catalog of mental diseases, but it carried its own significance.

Though the gathering appears to have been small and brief, the young activists photographed the subversive displays, posting the photos to public social media site Joopea, which has a number of Farsi pages. The photos are reproduced above, showing the rainbow flag waving over Tehran, activists holding a sign reading “no to homophobia” on the metro, and rainbow-colored balloons floating through the skyline.

"Note that the individuals were sure to hide their faces to avoid being identified and harassed," points out Radio Free Europe/Radio Liberty’s Golnaz Esfandiari, who surfaced the photos, which she calls “rare, if not unprecedented.” She adds, “Many Iranians may not know that the rainbow flag is the symbol of the lesbian, gay, bisexual, and transgender (LGBT) rights movement.”

For all of the Islamic Republic’s discrimination against gays and sympathetic activists like the young men and women in these photos, the country’s harsh laws are not as necessarily Islamic as the ayatollah-run regime might like to believe.

"Over the past few years, there have been a number of progressive Shiite clergymen, both in Iran and in places such as Lebanon, who have written revolutionary fatwas regarding gender equality, human rights, rights to privacy, and sexual offenses," Hossein Alizadeh, a program coordinator at the International Gay and Lesbian Human Rights Commission, told PBS’s Tehran Bureau. “These fatwas have been used in courts by lawyers with various degrees of success. Although the ruling establishment remains untouched by those progressive views, they can’t simply dismiss them as Western and have to take them into consideration as part of the court hearing process.”

It’s hard to see much momentum for changing social attitudes toward gay rights in Iran, and even harder to imagine official policy relaxing anytime soon. Maybe that’s what makes these half-dozen or so young activists so brave, to take pride in something their society insists is shameful, and to stand up for themselves, even if it means risking everything.

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In a recent opinion piece titled “All aboard the Trayvon bandwagon,” Washington Blade editor and co-owner Kevin Naff accuses 28 national LGBT groups of hype-riding because they issued an open letter opposing racial profiling and expressing solidarity with Trayvon Martin’s family and friends.In Naff’s view, the Trayvon Martin atrocity is simply a consequence of lax gun laws. Race only enters the picture because “ambulance-chasing zealots like Al Sharpton and Jesse Jackson” have intervened. “Racial tension” over the case is purely the result of “typically lazy and even deliberately inaccurate reporting by the mainstream media” and celebrity tweets. And LGBT organizations should have nothing to say about the systemic and pervasive practice of criminalizing black men and boys because race is just a “distraction that pumps up cable ratings and generates lots of heat, but no light.


I’m going to borrow that last phrase—“generates lots of heat but no light”—and apply it to Naff’s criminally narrow lens. To accuse organizations including the National Center for Transgender Equality, UNID@S, Immigration Equality and the National Black Justice Coalition of “bandwagon posturing” is to assume that the people who make up these organizations have no stake or interest in dismantling systemic racism. Essentially what Naff has done is cast the struggle for LGBT human rights and equality as window dressing for his own demands for white male privilege.Of course we know that to be a lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender or gender non-conforming person of color is to be—drum roll—a person of color. We know this because prisons and morgues are full of lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender and gender non-conforming people of color, their loved ones and their neighbors. They have no choice or desire to atomize their struggles. Naff shouldn’t either.

Akiba Solomon, Yes, Trayvon’s Death Is An LGBT Issue. No, LBGT Politics Aren’t Limited By White Privilege,” , Colorlines, 4/12/12. Damn, Solomon went ham on Naff, didn’t she? (via secretarysbreakroom)
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Advice Columnist Smacks Down Biphobe: Dear Lady A: Skeptical about the B

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DEAR LADY A: The people I know who claim they’re bi are attention-seeking and creepy. I honestly think, of the “bisexuals” I know, the guys are just gays who can’t emotionally handle being gay, and the women are trying to keep potential boyfriends interested with the promise of threesomes. Are actual bisexuals even real? If so, where are they hiding?

~~ Real Homo, Skeptical About The B in LGBT

DEAR DOUBTING HOMO: I’m not hiding and I’m bisexual, so your statement is really more about your own mistrust, isn’t it? It is the worst kind of queer self-sabotage to imply that a sexuality simply cannot be, because you can’t personally imagine it. It’s also ironic. Normally, I have a special contempt for assholes who attempt to inform me that my bisexuality is an urban myth promoted by terrified queens or an affectation I employ to impress my boyfriends. But I will try to exercise patience with you. I will even try to see it from your perspective for a moment.

To pretend like some haven’t used bisexuality as a “gateway drug” to gay or a boy-bewitching sexual tactic, would be disingenuous. Yes, there are folks who, for reasons including self-delusion, hipster trend-grubbing, or maybe just an attempt to earn better money at the stripper pole, might be bisexual pretenders. There are also straight pretenders and gay pretenders, but that doesn’t make you any less gay, does it, sir? And those gay pretenders, by the way, are sometimes boys and girls who love both boys and girls, but felt so unfairly judged by members of their own LGBT community that they actually went back into the bi closet by “picking a side.”

But for the most part, people who call themselves bi, flexible, curious or any other similar designation, are telling you the truth. You know how I know? Because it’s hard to be bi. Society immediately thinks the boys are lying and the girls are sluts, they’re queer but they’re not, they’re straight but they’re not, and they are generally just assigned the convenient homo or hetero sexuality that happens to coincide with their most current partner. They’re also some of the least supported queers in terms of organized help and education … And that’s not fun. So they must have a damned good reason (like the fact that they’ve realized they don’t give a fuck what you or society thinks they ought to be) for standing up and saying who they really are. Just like you had a damned good reason for telling the world who you really are, sir.

So, in answer to your question: Yes, bisexuals are real, and yes, they’re sometimes hiding in your ranks, and could possibly be one of your closest friends or lovers. Being fearful of something you don’t understand and can’t control is scary, isn’t it? On the bright side, now you know how homophobes feel.

I’m bi. No lie. Get used to it.


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DRUNK QUEERS TALK ABOUT SEX - our third video of the night

The reason Roommate and I were laughing at the beginning is that right before we started recording, I had brought over a pair of jeans to cut into shorts. I said something like, I don’t have much to add to the conversation so I might as well get some work done.

…Which was really fucking hilarious at the time.

Also Roommate’s cats were running around.